I love this mindset…
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.”
When I didn’t get a job, I reminded myself that there was a better opportunity ahead.
When dating someone ended unexpectedly, I told myself that someone even more wonderful was out there (true) and it just wasn’t meant to be.
When a couple of my friends got diagnosed with cancer, they went to work every day and lived life with even more purpose and motivation.
When a coworker said incredibly damaging words, I reminded myself that he was dealing with his own life circumstances and not to take it personally.
Once upon a time, one of my website names was “Choosing To.” I picked this name because of my passion about choice. I did a ton of reflecting about choices, patterns, and their influence. Sometimes we choose quickly (Amazon Prime…) and other times choices come slower. But at the end of the day, we choose the thing, the person, the activity, the food, you name it.
I love reminding myself of the power of choice, the power of my thoughts and response to situations.
So many of us choose to continue habits that make us miserable or we stay in jobs that kill our soul. We choose to think we aren’t capable or tell ourselves things will get better someday.
We complain to our friends about the same thing every time we see them and we say we’ll make a change after this event or after the bonus comes in.
Others of us choose to create an absolute dream life and even when stumbling blocks get in our way, we keep moving forward.
I love the beautiful examples of friends who are doing this both near and far. It is absolutely imperative to surround yourself with those people (at least for me). Jen Sincero says in her book, You Are a Badass,
“Hang out with people who are living on purpose, who meet their challenges with a step aside, suckers attitude, who are dating super awesome people, making exactly the kind of money they want to be making (or working toward it) or taking the kinds of vacations they, and you, want to be taking, and you’ll not only see what’s possible for you.”
Remember, you are the only one who gets to choose your thoughts. And those thoughts will either run you to the ground or keep you motivated (and everything in between).